We’ve all been told ‘no,’ and we’ve all had thoughts at one time or another that we aren't good enough. But if you want to become the highest version of yourself and reach your goals, learn to turn any negativity or rejection into success.
I was told ‘no’ by several investors when I presented AIIR, first crystal-infused haircare concept. I had some "big boys" in the beauty industry questioning why I would put crystals into haircare. But for me, it was a no-brainer. I believed in my concept, and fast forward to today, all of that believing and manifesting has enabled me to build a multimillion-dollar brand while launching during the pandemic no less. And my story in no way started with a huge monetary advantage or a large amount of confidence in the beginning of my career. It was, in fact, just the opposite.
The first salon I wanted to work at didn't hire me. While I felt sad and insecure by the
rejection, I was able to snap out of it to gain my power back and decide that if it was my true goal in life, I would find a way to obtain it. So what did I do? I pivoted. I moved to Arizona and applied for a job at the same salon chain where I later got hired and went on to be an educational director, eventually travelling overseas with them. I turned that rejection into success and looking back, it worked in my favor as I would not have met my husband or had the same career opportunities as I found in Arizona. I slowly started to build my story and confidence by taking more risks, ones that I may have not taken had I not pushed past the rejection to see it as redirection.
When it comes to rejection, I believe we have two choices: reframe your mindset to be positive and pivot to obtain your goal a different way, or be a victim. Look at rejections as a redirection to an unknown path you may not have been led to. And to secure your strength through times of hardship, dedicate yourself to something to keep you mentally strong and to get you through the toughness of rejection. Maybe it’s exercise, prayer, yoga, meditation or a crystal to keep in your pocket as a reminder that you can achieve your goals. Let that dedication be your guide and driving force for your why and your dreams.
My Three Biggest Tips For Overcoming Failure:
1. Learn How to Accept Rejection
Get in the mindset that something better is meant for you, and learn to be ok with pivoting into a different direction to obtain your goal.
2. Use Rejection as Fuel
As easy as it may be to attract anger or loathe the person who rejected you, remember that you attract negativity from negative emotions. Use rejection as fuel towards manifesting your goal rather than proving someone wrong. Embrace the new self-confidence you may find from it and use it as a way to re-evaluate your efforts, get the advice you need, or to create a new plan if need be. For me, when our lab was unsure about crystals, I did my own research and experimenting to become an expert on the usage of crystals in multiple areas. I appreciated those ‘no's’ as I wouldn't have done so much research otherwise. Anything is possible when you take matters into your own hands.
3. Embrace the Change
Learn to embrace it. Things are going to be tough if you want to pave your way and evolve. Your goals and dreams may not come easy, but it’s a part of the process. Just learn to embrace the rejections and ask yourself ‘What is this teaching me?’ because you may need to try things a different way or fine tune your skills or pivot and learn something new to drive your goals in the direction you’re aiming for. Just remember that failures aren't necessarily bad if you’re able to shift your mindset that it is pushing you to your limits, encouraging you to grow and bring about change a different way.